Moving out of your parents' house when you get married, go to university or get a job comes with added responsibilities. When you live on your own, you have to pay bills, a task that can be difficult when you are starting out in life. If you need to borrow money from your parents, do so in a way that shows that you have become a responsible adult.
Seek a loan from your parents only when you have exhausted other resources, such as bank loans or liquid assets. If you try to pay your bills with the money that you do have and still cannot make ends meet, your parents will probably feel that you have attempted to solve your financial problem on your own before coming to them.
Negotiate how much money to borrow with your parents and try to come up with an amount that is feasible. Ask them for enough money to help you pay your bills but do not get greedy. You do not want to alienate your parents by asking them to lend you a large amount of money. Make sure you do not cause your parents financial problems because they have helped you.
Set firm boundaries when borrowing money from your parents. Let them know that even though they have lent you money, they cannot control important aspects of your life, such as where you live, who you spend time with or what you do in your leisure time.
Draw up a contract with your parents to protect both parties and prove that you intend to pay them back. Use the contract to establish when you will start paying the money back, how much you will pay back at a time and how long you have to repay the money. Get a solicitor if you borrow a large sum of money of around £6,500 or more because she can help you to create a repayment schedule and work out taxes.
Start to repay the loan from your parents as soon as possible. If you can, try to give them money back early, even if it is less than the amount designed in the contract, to show that you intend to honour your agreement. If you cannot pay money back on time or need to change the agreement to pay less at a time, ask to work out a new plan with your parents.
After you have borrowed money from your parents and paid them back, try to make sure that you will not have to get a loan again by saving money every week or month.
Try to avoid spending too much on your credit cards or spending all of the money in your current account on goods and services that you do not need. Consider making changes, such as moving to a different flat or getting a cheaper car.
Tips and warnings
- After you have borrowed money from your parents and paid them back, try to make sure that you will not have to get a loan again by saving money every week or month.
- Try to avoid spending too much on your credit cards or spending all of the money in your current account on goods and services that you do not need. Consider making changes, such as moving to a different flat or getting a cheaper car.