Raising a teenage girl can be a daunting process. Pressures from school, friends, relationships and society put an enormous strain on your daughter's already intense emotions. Her mixed feelings often result in a stage of rebellion during which your daughter may seem to hate or dismiss you constantly. While this behaviour is unacceptable, confronting it with threats or punishment will not solve the problem. In order to get your daughter's behaviour under control, you must make her realise you are not her enemy.
Provide positive messages. Insecurity is a big problem among teenage girls. There is tremendous pressure from peers and popular culture to look good and be accepted. A teenage girl's poor attitude could be the result of poor encouragement or low self-esteem. Address her worries and insecurities by reminding her that she is loved and valued.
Be consistent. If your teenage daughter is rebelling or routinely misbehaving, you need to have a specific set of consequences that you always use. Knowing what is in store for her if she keeps up the negative behaviour may make her think twice before doing something wrong. Remind her that your job is to set the limits that keep her from doing things that are harmful or cause her embarrassment.
Do not play into drama. A teenage girl can be very dramatic because of the emotions she is trying to sort out. Do not react to this behaviour. Instead, let her know that you are there for her by saying things like "How do you really feel?" or "How can I help?"
Help her get her emotions under control. Teenage girls do not realise how their maturing bodies affect their emotions. As an adult, you have experienced this and understand some of what she is experiencing. Explain to her that her behaviour and feelings can be controlled and that she has the power within her to do so.
Be patient. The drama and behaviour associated with teenage girls is a phase that will eventually end as they grow out of it. As you remind her that she is valued, but her bad behaviour is not, she will eventually get better at adjusting her behaviour to a more appropriate one.
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