How to Live With My Boyfriend for the First Time

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How to Live With My Boyfriend for the First Time
Increase the chances that your move-in goes well. (Jupiterimages/Pixland/Getty Images)

If every minute you spend away from your boyfriend feels like an hour, and you just can't wait to get back to his side whenever you are apart, moving in with him may help quench your thirst for his company. While living with your guy can prove to be a positive step in a lifelong romantic relationship, it is an undoubtedly serious step that you should not take lightly. To decrease the chance that your cohabitation dream becomes a nightmare, take time to plan this initial period of sharing space with your man.

Skill level:
Moderately Easy


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    Create space reflective of both of you. Regardless of whose apartment or house you decide to call your joint home, the space should be reflective of both of you, not just the one who initially rented out or purchased the space. If you are welcoming your boyfriend into your apartment, allow him to add some of his own decorative touches, and if you are moving into his home, ask him to do the same for you. By creating a space in which you each have a decorative mark, you can ensure that you both feel at home.

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    Create a financial plan. When you move in with your guy, talking about finances is a must. Instead of avoiding this potentially uncomfortable topic, deal with it upfront, deciding how the bills will be split and whose funds you will use to purchase things like groceries. If you deal with finances from the start, you can decrease the likelihood that your relationship experiment proves a financially costly one.

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    Set some ground rules. While neither of you are kindergartners and, as such, you don't need a written list of behavioural guidelines, you will likely find that setting some basic, and informal, rules can make adjusting to cohabitation easier. Sit down with your guy and talk about things that are important to each of you. Make these things rules by which you will both live. For example, if not having bath towels laying on the bathroom floor is very important to you, ask him to commit to hanging his towel and, in return, promise him that you won't reorganise his bookshelf.

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    Discuss the things that bother you about each other immediately instead of letting these issues fester. As you spend your first few months together, and the honeymoon phase comes to an end, you may find that small things start to bother you. Instead of not mentioning these things, bring them up to your guy as politely as possible, and encourage him to do the same. By bringing these issues up instead of stewing over them, you can prevent some avoidable relationship disharmony.

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    Re-evaluate the relationship after some time together. While living with your romantic partner may bring you closer together, it could also prove to you that you just aren't as compatible as you had hoped. After spending some time under the same roof, think seriously about whether you can envision yourself spending the rest of your life with this guy to determine whether this relationship is one that has staying power.

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