How to date an alpha female

Written by annie taylor
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How to date an alpha female
Dating an alpha females can be equally challenging and exhilarating. (Jupiterimages/Comstock/Getty Images)

An alpha female is a headstrong woman who is competitive, intellectually charged and highly ambitious. The term alpha allows for several subsets, such as alpha visionaries, alpha commanders, alpha strategists and alpha executors. What all these people have in common is their competitive spirits and brilliant minds. Knowing an alpha female can be exciting, but dating one can be a bit of a challenge.

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    Assess yourself. Are you an alpha male, a beta male or a gamma male? Although you may think that the best match for an alpha female is an alpha male, alpha females sometimes feel reluctant to begin a relationship with an alpha male. Alpha females demand a lot of attention and feel that alpha males may not be able to provide this. For this reason, they may gravitate towards gamma males, who are the least headstrong males, because alpha females find them easier to manipulate. Those who are unwilling or too willing to compromise may be headed for trouble if they are dating an alpha female.

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    Recognise that the person you want to date is an alpha female but evaluate her based on other things like her kindness, personality and ability to make you happy. You may be dating a woman who likes a challenge in the workplace and is a leader among her friends, but don't let that eclipse your judgment of her as a person. Just because she has a strong personality does not mean that she's not a good person who won't be willing to see eye to eye with you.

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    Be confident. If you come across a situation where you disagree, it may prove to be a challenge but don't give up too quickly. An alpha female is likely to walk all over you without even realising it if you're weak enough to let her. Just let her know firmly, but kindly, that you need her to meet you halfway.

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    Do not let yourself feel emasculated in the presence of an alpha female. Try a little introspection and think about whether her independence makes you feel any type of resentment. Don't let sexism get in the way of what could be a great relationship.

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    Treat her well, just as you would any other woman. Be kind to her, surprise her with thoughtful gifts and treat her with respect.

Tips and warnings

  • Have many friends, hobbies, and ambitions of your own. Alpha females are attracted to people who want to live their lives to the fullest.
  • Don't expect to be mothered by an alpha female. She may grow irritated if you're too clingy.

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