How to send a great first online dating email

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How to send a great first online dating email
When aproaching a potential date online, be genuine and speak from the heart. (Internet dating image by Graham Dance from

Online dating is a very popular way to start a relationship. With this new relationship style come new relationship quandaries, such as how to write the perfect e-mail introducing yourself to a person who could become the love of your life. It's important to make a good impression, but this is difficult when you can express yourself only in words, especially if writing isn't your strong suit.

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    Address him by his first name at the beginning of the email. Dating doesn't have to be so serious. There's no need for "Dear Mr. Smith" at the beginning of your e-mail. "Hey, Mitch" will suffice.

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    Avoid using simple facts. Express your feelings instead of stating facts alone. This will make you seem more like a real person to whom he can relate. For example, instead of telling him that you love to read, you could mention how you love the feeling of escaping into another world when you pick up a great novel.

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    Speak from your heart. Make sure that he knows why you are interested in him. Is it his good looks? Did you notice that his interests were similar to yours? Let him know why you chose to talk to him specifically, so he doesn't feel like just a face in the crowd.

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    Play hard to get. Just because you are initiating the conversation doesn't mean that you have to throw yourself at him. Display interest, but don't be too clingy. For example, saying, "I would love to get to know you better because your interests seem to reflect mine and I think we might have a lot in common" is a solid way to start. But "We need to hang out because I think you are the most amazing man, so call me as soon as possible" is a little much.

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    Land the ball in his court. Make sure at the close of your e-mail that he knows the decision is his as to whether he will follow up with you and plan a first date.

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