How to tell if a man misses you

Updated April 17, 2017

Spending time away from your partner can be a trying experience. This may be true whether the reason for your separation is planned or unexpected. If you're wondering how much he's actually missing you while you're away, assessing his behaviour is essential. Paying attention to the way he reacts throughout your time apart can reveal how deeply he longs for your return.

Examine how much he tries to facilitate contact with you. While it may not be possible for you to stay in contact regularly while you're away, his efforts at communication can indicate his positive feelings. Examples include leaving voice messages throughout the day to simply say that he misses you or rearranging his schedule to be available for your phone calls.

Look beyond his bravado. Understand that it may be difficult for your guy to simply admit that he misses you. He may even make statements that indicate he's doing "just fine" while you're away. Looking for evidence of distress, including withdrawal from normal activities, can help you know what his heart truly feels.

Factor in his actions. While hearing confessions of how much you're deeply missed may inspire warm feelings, words alone can't tell if a guy truly misses you. Consider how he occupies his time when you're not together to give you a better indication of his emotions. For example, if he fills his nights with spirited outings in the club scene, he may not miss you as much as he proclaims.

Factor in his enthusiasm to see you again. Pay attention to how excited he seems when you give details of your arrival. Anxiously requesting the details of your travel plans or presenting you with romantic plans for your first night back can indicate that he misses you. Negative signs include not committing to seeing you the first night you get back because he's busy.


Noticing his tone of voice and willingness to engage in conversation can help you know if you're truly missed.

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Mika Lo has been producing online content since 2005. The majority of her work has been published in areas such as parenting, lifestyle and health. Lo has also assisted with the development of community and hospital-based patient education programs, including creative discharge classes for new mothers and assisting underprivileged patients with medication assistance and information.