How to find out the marital status of someone

Updated February 21, 2017

Whether you'd like to find a person's marital status because you're trying to reconnect with someone from your past or you want to make sure the person you're interested in dating might be the right one for you, the task can be easy with a little research and time. Mutual friends, the Internet and maybe even a professional can help you learn a person's marital status.

Ask the person if you see him on a daily basis. Some people choose not to wear a wedding ring for whatever reason, so it's perfectly reasonable for you to simply ask, "Are you married?" or "What is your marital status?" Ask in a casual, conversational way.

Ask around. Talk to mutual friends or current friends who know the person. If you haven't been able to get in touch with the person, or don't want to talk with him, someone else might be able to tell you his marital status.

Search the Internet under his name or her maiden name. Search for the person's name and any variations by putting names in quotation marks. For example, to search for John Smith, you might try "John Smith" "Jon Smith" and "Jonathan Smith." Also search with other information that would narrow the search, such as his location or job. Search the results for wedding announcements or registries.

Search social-networking sites, such as Facebook, Myspace and other websites that might have a "marital status" section on personal profiles. Search for the person and see if you can view her profile to determine if there is an indication of her marital status. If the profile is set to private, send her a message through the site and ask, or request to be a friend through the site so you can look at her profile.

Search websites designated for high school or college reunions. The same options are available here as with the social networking sites, so search the profile for marital status updates if you can or send the person a direct message to ask whether he has been married.

If you know the location of the person you're interested in, get a background check or check your local public records office for additional information, such as a marriage license. Websites like, and can provide a reputable background check. Contact a lawyer if you need someone to find out more information.

Things You'll Need

  • Internet access
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Laila Alvarez has been writing professionally since 2002. She has written for Houston Community Newspapers and "L.A. Zoo View," "North O.C. Magazine," "Perpetual Phlegm" and other magazines, newspapers and websites. Alvarez has a Bachelor of Arts in journalism from California State University-Fullerton.