Over half of all marriages end in divorce according to statistics provided by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. What this statistic does not tell are the reasons why people get divorced. Whether the divorce is expected, a welcome relief or a complete shock, there are many reasons why couples decide to end their marriage.
Around 17 per cent of divorces are a direct result of infidelity, according to the Menstuff website. Many people argue that infidelity is never the cause of a marriage breakdown, rather a symptom of a relationship already broken. Either way, a spouse cheating is one of the most common reasons for divorce.
Domestic abuse, whether it is physical or mental, is another reason for a couple to divorce. Being aggressive and violent towards a spouse is not only morally wrong, it is also against the law. Mental abuse is often harder to prove, as it can range from name-calling, humiliation and consistent negativity.
Maybe a couple rushed into marriage, felt pressured by outside influences or simply just grew apart. A person's beliefs and attitudes change over time, meaning a couple who were compatible at marriage may not be so 10 years later.
Boredom is common in any relationship; being with the same person day in and day out is only exciting for a short period of time. Of course, many couples work through this with various ways of keeping the excitement and sparkle in their marriage. For those that do not, divorce is seemingly the only answer.
Lack Of Communication
Many divorced people said they did not listen to what their spouse was saying during an argument, says a study by Penn State Research Program. Communication is important in a marriage. If a couple feels they cannot talk to each other, problems go unresolved.
Children can often be a major source of conflict, with couples being unable to agree on things such as education and discipline. One spouse may feel the other undermines their authority, causing arguments and disagreements.
One or even both spouses may feel their marriage is not what they expected. A successful marriage takes hard work and commitment. Not all people expect married life to be mundane or ordinary. Their spouse may not meet expectations, especially if the couple share different religious or cultural beliefs.
Living with someone who has a mental illness is not only difficult, it can ultimately be unrewarding. The spouse may feel they are more a caregiver than a wife or husband, and feel emotionally detached from their spouse.
If a couple have different opinions on money management, this can make it difficult for them to agree on household finances. One spouse may be a saver and the other a spender, causing conflict over financial priorities. Disagreements about finances are a common reason for divorce.
Addiction of any kind is often harmful to relationships, and not necessarily only obvious addictions such as drug and alcohol abuse. Addictions to gambling, shopping and even the Internet can all prove harmful to a marriage.