What questions can I ask a girl to discreetly find out if she likes me?

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What questions can I ask a girl to discreetly find out if she likes me?
Start a conversation with a girl with polite banter. (Jupiterimages/Photos.com/Getty Images)

Before you ask a girl out, determine if there's chemistry between the two of you by initiating a conversation. If she likes you, she'll want to be near you, so get the conversation ball rolling. If she's willing to carry on a casual conversation with you, then there's a good chance she likes you.

Common Interests

Ask her about something you both have in common. If you know each other from school, ask her about a topic from a class you both share. Then coolly segue into asking her what her interests are. Once you find out, for example, she likes to read, wait a few days, then let her know of a book you think she might be interested in. This lets her know that you were listening to what she said.

Real Time Versus Cyberspace

Initiating conversation through social media platforms might seem appealing, but it's better to save it to follow up and not for initiating. Online communication can come across as impersonal, so instead approach a girl in real time. It will seem like you've put in extra effort to talk with her face to face, and that might make a lasting impression.


Pay her a compliment. For example, if she comes to class one day wearing a cool T-shirt, tell her it's nice and ask where she got it. Or if she's an athlete and you caught a game she was in, let her know she played a good game and ask her about her experience on the team. This lets her know that you are paying attention to her. You don't need to overdo it and start complimenting her on her hair and eyes; you can if you want, but it's better to start small. If she likes you, she might return with a compliment for you.

Small Talk

Start a conversation with polite banter. It's a good way to get the conversation ball rolling, even if it does start out a little contrived or awkward. Simply say something about the weather, current events or television shows. She might have nothing to say about these topics, but if she likes you, she'll want to keep the conversation going and segue into something she is interested in. Then you can steer the conversation from there.

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