How to overcome emotional insecurity

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How to overcome emotional insecurity
Overcome emotional security by improving your self-image. (Goodshoot/Goodshoot/Getty Images)

Emotional insecurity can occur for many different reasons, some including self-doubt, a recent break-up or from comparison to others. Over time, emotional insecurity may lead to missed employment opportunities, relationships and experiences. If these patterns of events continue to occur, a person may find himself unable to deal with his emotions or function in the same manner as he did before. Learning to understand and overcome emotional insecurity is beneficial to the happiness and well-being of the person experiencing it.

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    Practice self-confidence as emotional insecurity may occur due to a person's self-image. In some cases, a person may not feel he is good enough for a person, job or completion of goals. In order to become successful or "good enough," a person must first have confidence in himself.

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    Open up to the idea of accepting yourself, your flaws and your accomplishments. Do so by avoiding comparing yourself with people around you. Becoming confident in yourself will allow you to become comfortable around other people both physically and emotionally.

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    Pay attention to your emotions, how often they change and why. Pinpointing the feeling will help you to determine the reason behind it instead of wondering where the influx of emotions is coming from.

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    Assess and understand the reasons behind the way you feel to help you better identify these emotions as you experience them. If you are feeling anxious, for example, consider your current situation. You may feel anxious due to being away from a partner, an approaching significant event or the outcome of a basketball game.

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    Avoid comparing yourself to other people who you feel are more successful or talented, whether this is true or not. Some people find that by comparing self-success to other people's success, a current job or pay rate might be less meaningful.

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    Chart a list of goals for yourself if you feel your emotional insecurity is due to your pay rate, education or other obtainable asset. Follow your goals on a daily basis to ensure you are keeping up with them. Mark off goals as you complete them and attempt to set new goals.

Tips and warnings

  • Seek counselling if you feel that your emotional insecurities are due to other issues, such as an event in your relationship or other significant obstacles that may have affected your outlook. Sometimes a person is unable to cope with certain events, such as a death or problems in a marriage, without the help of an outside source.
  • Attend regular sessions with the counsellor to allow her to help you identify these issues and establish ways to help you overcome them. Only when you are able to get by these issues are you able to establish emotional security.

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