How to Become a Pen Pal for Soldiers Overseas

Updated July 05, 2018

If you don't know any soldiers who are currently serving oversees, you can still show your support of the military by becoming a pen pal to someone you don't know. Many soldiers are in need of encouragement from fellow Americans that remain back in the states. You can be that encouragement by sending letters, cards and even small gift packages. Finding a pen pal is not as hard as you might think.

Contact an organisation that can help you find a pen pal, such as My Soldier, Friends of Our Troops or Operation Military Pride. The organisation will supply you with the soldier's name and oversees address.

Introduce yourself in the first letter and be sure to thank the soldier for serving and defending our country. You may also want to ask the soldier if there is anything he is in need of (such as soap, chewing gum or a notepad). Your first letter doesn't have to be too long, but make sure you conclude the letter by listing your contact information so he can write you back.

Wait for a response from the solder. Begin assembling a small care package based on any needs that were listed in the letter. If no needs were addressed, you can just write another letter. Be sure to ask the soldier what her interests are, and if she has any hobbies. You may find you have something in common to discuss.

Contact your local school or church youth group and ask the kids if they can each create a card to encourage your new pen pal. Children can be extremely creative and are sure to put a smile on the soldier's face. Mail all of the cards to your pen pal along with your next letter.

Ask the soldier if he has an e-mail address that you can use to write him. This is a good idea if you find that you and the soldier are getting along, and you wish to chat more frequently. Letters can take a long time to reach the soldier oversees, but an e-mail is instant.


Make sure you follow the United States Postal Service military mailing restrictions instructions when assembling any care packages.


Never ask an oversees soldier to share his war experiences with you. This may be too painful of a subject. If he wants to talk about it, he will open up on his own.

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