How to Tell If a Guy Feels a Connection to You

Updated April 17, 2017

You met him, you're hanging out and now you wonder if he feels anything. The beginning phase of any relationship is filled with many of questions - is there spinach in my teeth? Is he attracted to me? When you're dying to know if there is an electric charge between you and this new guy, recognise a few signs he may be throwing your way as indicators that he might be ready to connect.

You feel it. Listen to your heart, or better yet, your gut. If you feel sparks and see stars, the feeling could be mutual. Allow your heart to be free without worrying about what every little detail means. Forget past hang-ups and allow yourself to be open to the possibility that he may be someone cool to hang out with.

Avoid distractions when you're with him. Show him that you're into him so he can have a bit of a vested interest in getting into you. Don't allow your casual coffee with him to be interrupted by your friend, popping by to show you her new handbag. Try to section yourself off so it's just you two. He'll have a better chance of connecting with you when he is focused.

He listens intently. Talk about something interesting, deep, or even funny, and see if he's rummaging through his pockets texting his buddy or if he's giving you intense eye contact and hanging on to your every word. When he feels something for you, he'll try to show it in subtle ways, like giving you the stage.

His smile is as wide as a football field. Notice how every word you say is accompanied by his grand smile. If he's allowing his emotions to be shown, it's a sure-fire sign that he's starting to feel connected and comfortable.

He's goofy. Give him some room to let his guard down a little without making comments or poking fun at him. Notice that he's OK exposing some of his true self. Punch him playfully or ask if you can jump on his back and see if he's a goofball just like you. His comfort and sense of self is a strong indicator that he's digging you.

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Crystal Green is a marketing and event management consultant specializing in non-profit organizations and small businesses. Green spent the last seven years working for a statewide education association directing their trade publications, writing articles for programs' training teams and other event-related freelance projects. Green hold a Bachelor's degree in Journalism, and is currently working on advanced degrees.