How to Keep a Man Interested in a Long-Distance Relationship

Updated February 21, 2017

Long-distance relationships are difficult, at best. Many couples don't see each other as often as they would like, nor do they openly communicate their wants and needs as they would in person. Keeping a man interested in a long-distance relationship takes courage, planning and creativity. When you can't see him as frequently as you'd like, there are ways to stay fresh, relevant and exciting to your long-distance man.

Send your guy random text messages to let him know you're thinking about him. Do not send more than two a day, unless they are part of a conversation. Once in a while send some sexy messages reminding him of how much you miss him or what you want him to do to you the next time you get together.

Take some sexy pictures of yourself or have a friend or professional take sexy pictures of you. Put them in a large envelope and send them to your long-distance lover. If you include a note, make it brief, like "Guess what I'm thinking about," "I can't wait to see you" or "I miss you."

Set up a surprise rendezvous. Instead of meeting at your place or his, have him meet you at a secluded cabin or luxury hotel located halfway between your homes. Have the room set up for romance, with fresh flowers and champagne.

Talk to your guy at least every few days, preferably every day. If you are both busy, schedule a good-night phone call when you'll both be home and available to chat. If there are times this doesn't work, send him a quick e-mail, so he knows you're thinking about him.

Turn on the webcam to put on a hot fashion show for your guy or just to visit face to face once in a while. Put on his favourite outfit, do your hair and make-up and show him what he's missing.


Give your guy some space. Trust him and don't doubt his commitment to you. Constantly questioning his whereabouts and activities could make him frustrated.

Things You'll Need

  • Cell phone
  • Camera
  • Web camera
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About the Author

Jennifer Erchul has been a freelance writer since 2002. Writing primarily about family and travel, her work has appeared in the "Idaho State Journal," "Portnuef Valley Parents Magazine" and "Western Flyfisher." She writes for numerous websites and is a published author. Erchul studied English and psychology at Concordia College in Moorhead, Minn.