How to get the confidence to ask a girl out

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How to get the confidence to ask a girl out
Getting the confidence to ask a girl out takes a bit of mental preparation. (young couple image by Mat Hayward from

Building up the confidence to ask a girl out can be difficult, especially for those prone to shyness. The fear of rejection overwhelms a lot of guys, but it doesn't have to overwhelm you. Developing the necessary confidence to ask a girl out simply requires mental preparation. Following a few basic guidelines can help tremendously in mustering up the courage to ask a girl out.

Skill level:


  1. 1

    Build confidence by reminding yourself of what makes you appealing. Make a mental list of your positive qualities and recognise that women want men with these qualities to ask them out. Look at yourself as having a lot to offer a lucky girl out there.

  2. 2

    Use humour to lighten the mood before you attempt to ask a girl out. Trying to sweet talk a girl without a proper icebreaker can create an awkward moment. Start off with a basic conversation and incorporate some humour. Making a girl laugh is a great way to build rapport and give you a boost in confidence that will make it easier to ask for a date.

  3. 3

    Accept the fact that rejection is not the end of the world. There are countless pretty girls in the world, more than you could ever hope to meet or talk to. Take solace in the idea that one conversation with one girl is rather insignificant in the great scheme of things. If you do get rejected, you will be able to face it head on, recognise that the sting is only temporary, pick yourself up and try again with other girls until you succeed.

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