Subtle signs of attraction

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Body language can reveal a lot -- even your attraction to another person. Whether or not you find the right words to convey your interest, your posture and movements will send subtle messages. After learning about the body language of attraction, you'll have an easier time gauging the interests of other people. You might even learn how to control your body's own subtle messages to improve your flirting abilities.

Position of Feet

The position of the feet reveals the direction of interest. For example, if a man is interested in a woman, yet too nervous to face her, his feet may still be pointing in her direction. The same is true for women; however, some women stand pigeon-toed -- both feet facing inward -- to assume a more approachable posture.

Palms Up

When a person gestures with her palms facing upward, this is a sign of openness. Exposing the wrists reveals a willingness to be vulnerable, whereas downward-facing hands reveal a slightly more defensive attitude.

Eye Contact

A brief gaze, lasting about five seconds, is usually a sign of attraction, especially if it occurs repeatedly. It may be an invitation to approach and engage in conversation. An upward gaze from a bowed forehead is very flirtatious gesture. A lengthy stare or downward gaze can send a threatening message.

Natural Smile

A natural smile, which creates wrinkles around the eyes, may be a sign of genuine interest. When a person smiles simply to be polite, the smile will only move muscles around the lips.

Casual Contact

Light and brief contact may be a sign of attraction. For example, if a man brushes against a woman's arm or gives her a quick pat on the shoulder or hand during conversation, he may be signalling interest. She may interpret too much contact as a threatening sign.


When seated, leaning toward a person is a sign of attraction. It conveys a message of fascination. Leaning away signals disinterest or irritation; the movement says, "I'd rather be somewhere else."


Copying the gestures or posture of another person reveals interest. Mirroring does not involve mimicking every exact movement. For example, if a woman leans forward and smiles, an attracted man may lean in slightly.

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