Signs of a Manipulative Man

Updated July 19, 2017

It is easy to jump too fast into a relationship with someone when you're looking for a soul mate. Unfortunately, many relationships become abusive in various ways. Manipulation in relationships is a form of emotional abuse. When a man is manipulative, it can lead to his partner feeling closed off from the world and unable to escape. Recognising the signs early can help someone get out of a manipulative relationship before it goes too far.

Uses Money

A manipulative man may try to convince his partner that she needs him financially. He may spend lots of money on her in the beginning of the relationship to get her used to living well and receiving plenty of gifts. He may even invite her to move in and encourage her to quit her job so that she has few options if she decides to leave. Later in the relationship, he may stop spending money on her each time there is an argument to try to regain control and make her feel bad.

Acts Depressed

Manipulative men often act depressed or even suicidal when their partners consider ending the relationship. He may say something like, "I can't live without you" or "I am going to hurt myself if you leave and it will be your fault."

Mind Games

Many men manipulate their partners by playing mind games. For example, a man may spend time with his partner going on fun dates, but as soon as a disagreement occurs, he avoids contact with her until she starts to worry about him and wonder why he disappeared.

Avoids Communcation

A man may avoid talking about his problems or how he is manipulative, or he may completely deny the fact. If accused of being manipulative, he often becomes defensive or attempts to make his partner feel guilty for saying such things.


The man may convince his partner to stop seeing her friends and family to hide his level of manipulation. This is especially true if the friends and family members point out his bad behaviour on a regular basis. He might use guilt to stop his partner from seeing them or he may find a way to make her resent the other people, so she will stop seeing them on her own.

Blames Others

Each time a problem arises, a manipulative man blames the problem on his partner. He uses blame and guilt to make his partner feel as though she's caused the disagreement, leading her to apologise and try to fix the relationship.


Bullying is another form of manipulation. If a man uses threats to keep his partner around, whether he follows through or not, it is manipulation and abuse.

Cite this Article A tool to create a citation to reference this article Cite this Article

About the Author