How to Destress & Relax Your Wife

Written by tiffany barry
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How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
Taking time away from your busy schedule to help your wife relax will be rewarded. (Jupiterimages/Comstock/Getty Images)

Although husbands are taking a more active role in the home, wives who work are still responsible for about 80 per cent of the household duties, according to the University of Alabama's Parenting Assistance Line. Wives are often juggling a full-time job, children, dinner, and housekeeping all at once. Even women who do not work outside the home can easily become stressed trying to keep the household running smoothly. It is a wonderful thing to indulge in pampering from your spouse. As a husband, destressing and relaxing your wife can be easy and fulfilling, and it will probably earn you a few favours, too.

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Things you need

  • New book by her favourite author
  • Lavender bath salts
  • Aromatherapy candles
  • Massage oil or lotion
  • Seasonal flower bouquet
  • Vases or glass containers

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  1. 1

    Take over a daily chore that is normally hers. If you have the opportunity to get it done in secret, take advantage of the time to surprise her.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    Completing a chore for your wife will be a pleasant surprise. (Jupiterimages, Brand X Pictures/Brand X Pictures/Getty Images)
  2. 2

    If you have children, arrange for a weekend at a relative's house. This will give your wife an opportunity to take a mental -- and possibly physical -- break from child care. She will be able to focus on relaxing and enjoy some valuable time for herself.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    A weekend spent at a relative's home will be a relaxing break for your wife and a fun getaway for your child(ren). (Nick White/Photodisc/Getty Images)
  3. 3

    Finish some of those unfinished projects. Your wife will be pleased when she can cross the half-finished paint job in the spare bedroom off the "honey-do" list.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    Getting to those unfinished projects will be a relief to your wife and you. (Jupiterimages/ Images)
  4. 4

    Arrange to take a day off work without telling your wife -- use your personal days rather than calling in sick -- to clean and organise the house. Organization is a huge destresser for wives juggling multiple tasks and will go a long way toward relaxing her.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    There is nothing better than relaxing in a clean home. (Jupiterimages/Creatas/Getty Images)
  5. 5

    Offer to give her a massage and treat it as if you are a real masseur. Play ambient music, light aromatherapy candles -- lavender and ylang-ylang scented candles are very relaxing -- and use massage oil or lotion.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    Massage relieves tense muscles and soothes the mind. (Jupiterimages/Goodshoot/Getty Images)
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    Buy a bouquet of seasonal flowers, split it up and arrange small groups of blooms around the house. Cut the stems to fit in shorter vases. You can use virtually any container as a vase including an empty bottle of her favourite wine, cute coffee mugs and wide bowls.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    Containers not normally used as vases add character to flowers. (Hemera Technologies/ Images)
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    Design a spa for your wife right in your own home. Purchase a new book by her favourite author, or one she reads often to relax, aromatherapy candles and lavender bath salts. Set up your bathroom as a luxurious spa. Arrange lit candles, flowers and towels around the room and turn on a soothing playlist of her favourite music. Run a hot bath for your wife just as she returns home, and let her soak it all in. If your wife drinks wine, a cool glass of her favourite is the perfect addition to your spa presentation.

    How to Destress & Relax Your Wife
    Create the relaxing allure of luxurious spa by adding just a few simple amenities. (Jupiterimages/Creatas/Getty Images)

Tips and warnings

  • Adjust your plans according to your wife's likes and dislikes. You know your wife better than anyone. She'll be most relaxed with surprises she will actually enjoy.
  • Consider allergies your wife may have before bringing flowers, scented candles, lotions and bath salts into contact with her.

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