Dating in the workplace has become less taboo in recent years, but that does not mean it is necessarily easy to ask your co-worker on a date. Fear of rejection and awkward working conditions, combined with possible professional repercussions, can make flirting with and dating coworkers a sensitive and complicated subject. If you want to date a co-worker, verify your company's policy on the subject beforehand, wait for the right moment and stay professional if you get rejected.
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Try subtle flirting and making regular eye contact. Try to interpret your co-worker's behaviour and body language to see whether he is interested. Laugh at jokes, smile frequently and find excuses to make physical contact, such as touching his arm or hand.
Wait for the appropriate moment outside the office. Do not ask out your co-worker at inopportune times, such as during a meeting or conference call or when you are surrounded by other coworkers. You don't want to make your co-worker uncomfortable. Catch up with her after work, at a neighbourhood bar or while walking to your car, and ask when you have a moment alone.
Have a plan before you ask. Have a specific place in mind that you want to go or activity you would like to do when you ask a co-worker out on a date. If possible, choose a place that reflects your co-worker's interests. For example, if he likes baseball, ask him to go with you to an upcoming minor league game in your town.
Be prepared for rejection. You do not want to have awkward encounters at the office should your co-worker turn down your request. If your co-worker says, "No," make it clear that everything is fine between you and it will have no effect on your professional relationship.
Tips and warnings
- Check you company's human resources policy on relationships in the workplace before asking your co-worker on a date. Many companies have a no-dating policy or require that you declare your relationship with human resources to avoid possible sexual harassment suits.
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