Being a good housewife and mother is more than just a state of mind. The modern definition of housewife and mother encompasses many roles that often include holding a job, cooking meals, managing bills and maintaining excellent physical shape, all in the midst of ensuring the needs of your family. The key to being a good housewife and mother is knowing how to balance household demands. This begins with accepting the fact that life isn't perfect and that to constantly chase a state of household utopia is counterproductive. Establishing a reasonable schedule helps keep household and parenting responsibilities running smoothly.
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Things you need
- Pencil with attached eraser
- Alarm clock
- Crock pot
Exercise daily for 15 to 20 minutes to boost metabolism and energy. Walking the dog, working in the yard or doing a quick workout video all count as exercise that boosts your stamina and promotes a positive self-image. These benefits trickle down to how well you tackle daily chores and interact with your husband and children.
Put a calendar on the fridge and attach a pencil with an eraser for easy access to keep track of everyone's events and appointments. Keeping a manual calendar is a simple, often overlooked organizational tool that makes a big difference in your ability to remember appointments, deadlines and important dates. Keep the pencil within easy reach for erasing and rescheduling events as needed.
Set the alarm clock to wake up 15 to 20 minutes earlier than the rest of the family to get some personal time in the morning. Starting out your day with a few minutes of quiet time prepares your mind and body for the rush of the day's activities. This is a prime opportunity for relaxing while considering your schedule and dinner plans for the evening. This is also an excellent opportunity to spend a few minutes with your husband before he leaves for work. Surprise him with a cup of ready-made coffee or tea each morning for a small, but potent, expression of the same love and devotion he shows you by going to work each day.
Take time at the end of each day to listen to your husband and children. Forget the unfinished laundry or those dishes in the sink because they'll still be there in the morning. Remember that taking time to listen and talk with your children and husband is far more important than household chores and often diffuses little problems that may have grown into bigger issues were you not there to lend your essential support. Make eye contact and realise that listening is just as important as talking when it comes to meaningful communication.
Leave your work at the office if you're employed outside the home. Bringing your office work or woes home only takes away from the time you could be spending enjoying your husband and children. Designate a few chores to the family to ensure you're not carrying the entire household workload on top of your job or career. Disperse chores to your husband and children that they can complete on a regular basis without being asked repeatedly. Simple chores include taking out the garbage or feeding the family pets.
Thank your husband for his efforts. Verbal expressions of gratitude go a long way in making your husband feel valued not only as a provider but as a person in general. Men often deal with difficult situations at work and need to think that someone thinks they are competent and worthy of respect at all times. Take advantage of your ability to make your husband feel valued as a man who excels in every endeavour he undertakes.
Prepare dinner in the crock pot as often as possible to save significant amounts of time. There are plenty of hectic days when the thought of cooking dinner is simply too overwhelming. Use the crock pot to prepare meals ahead of time for those unexpected days when things pile up faster than you can handle. Let the crock pot do the cooking for you with hearty meals that come as a huge relief when everyone gets home at once (famished, of course) asking you when dinner will be ready.
Speak patiently to your children. Children are still in the process of learning the ropes of life just as you are in the process of becoming the best housewife and mother you can be. Understand your child's small mistakes are not likely to matter over the course of a lifetime. For example, one failed test over a semester of otherwise acceptable grades is not worth an overreaction on your part. Use your child's failures to help him find different opportunities for success.
Tips and warnings
- Allow yourself to make mistakes; there's no such thing as the perfect housewife and mother.
- Recognise when your children must be told "no." Sometimes children are subconsciously relieved to know that there are boundaries.
- Purchase a crock pot with a self-timer to avoid burning any meals.
- Never leave the crock pot on overnight.
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