How to tactfully state no gifts on a birthday invitation

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How to tactfully state no gifts on a birthday invitation
Discouraging gift-giving on an invitation has to be done firmly but politely. (Getty creative)

Whether it is because you know finances are tight for your friends and family or you really just do not need anything new, you are not alone in wanting to tactfully communicate that no birthday presents are expected or even wanted this year. Letting guests know they should not bring gifts can be uncomfortable and awkward, but there are acceptable ways of getting your message across. Be careful and sensitive, but feel comfortable moving forward on the gift-less path you have chosen.

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    Decide if word-of-mouth notice will be sufficient to instruct your guests accordingly. If at all possible, mentioning “gifts” on an invitation should be avoided. But, if having family members tell friends is out of the question, prepare to address the gift situation in the invitation itself.

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    Analyse the guest list and segment individuals into groups if the same phrase for all is undesired. Your closest friends might be entertained by a joke, but those sophisticated in-laws and distant relatives might not be as amused.

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    Insert the standard “No gifts, please” at the bottom of the invitation--below party details such as the date, time and location. You can include this default message on every card, if desired, with no additional explanation.

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    Consider prefacing the no-gift announcement with the words “Your presence is present enough.” This softens the message and compliments your guests.

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    Include a joke, as appropriate, to close friends who will appreciate the added humour. You can consider building off of how forgetful you are, or how cluttered you keep your house already, or something similar.

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