How to Write a Thank You Note to a Host or Hostess

Updated February 21, 2017

You have enjoyed an exceptionally nice dinner at a friend's house. It was memorable, and you would like to express your appreciation to the host for the meal and evening festivities. Now, you might be stuck on just what to say or do. Many of us have not grown up like our grandparents did, sending cards and letters to convey our thoughts. We send quick e-mails and partially worded texts. However, for a lovely evening, a thank you note is still the way to go and a well-received gesture. If you are unsure of just what to say, use this step-by-step approach to get you started.

Hand write the note on nice stationery or a blank card. This makes the note more personal and meaningful.

Write the note within a week or two of attending the dinner. This time line will help you remember details to write about and shows that you enjoyed the event so much that you had to say thank you right away.

Start with a sentence saying what a great time you had. For example, you can say "I had such a great time at dinner last Saturday that I wanted to thank you."

Write at least two sentences about the event that made it special. Say how you still laugh about something that happened, or mention the amazing decorating that gave the event such a special touch.

End the note by reiterating how much you appreciate being included. If you want, mention that you will be reciprocating soon and are looking forward to another dinner or event with the host.

Things You'll Need

  • Paper or card
  • Pen
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Lynn Anders has more than 15 years of professional experience working as a zookeeper, wildlife/environmental/conservation educator and in nonprofit pet rescue. Writing since 2007, her work has appeared on various websites, covering pet-related, environmental, financial and parenting topics. Anders has a Bachelor of Arts in environmental studies and biology from California State University, Sacramento.