How to Write Wedding Wishes

Updated February 21, 2017

Wedding cards are the perfect place to communicate your personal congratulations and words of best wishes to a newly married or soon-to-be married couple. Sometimes, though, the right sentiments can seem difficult to convey.

Make sure you have the correct spelling of both the bride's and groom's names.

Decide on the style of writing you feel is most appropriate, depending on your relationship with the couple. If you are close friends with them and have shared many experiences together, you might find that a memory or an applicable joke or meaningful quote is suitable. Close family members and friends might opt for this style, while other acquaintances choose to write a traditional letter of congratulations.

Jot down some initial thoughts on a separate piece of paper to help organise the direction of the wording. As you think about what you want to say and write down a few thoughts, keep in mind the objective of your note, which is to congratulate the couple on their marriage.

Begin with a sentence or two of your chosen words of congratulations. This might be a statement of best wishes for the upcoming event or one of congratulations following the happy event.

Include your heartfelt sentiments for their future happiness together. You might mention a personal thought or two about marriage, but bring the point back to their relationship.

Conclude the congratulatory note with a sentence wishing them the best and expressing your excitement for their future together.


If you are unable to attend the wedding, this is an appropriate place to mention your regrets for not being able to join them on their special day. A note of apology and a sentence explaining your reason is acceptable and courteous. If you can't think of anything to say, include a short excerpt from a poem or a quote that fits the occasion. Have extra cards available in case you make a mistake.

Things You'll Need

  • Wedding card
  • Practice paper
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