How to Be an Army Wife

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Some wives don't have any idea what their husbands do for a living other than the job title and where the husband works. Army wives however, are on an intimate basis with their husbands' employer, and the Army is usually a key player in the family.

Skill level:


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    Remember that sometimes you must come second in the relationship between your husband and the Army. When the Army tells your husband that he must do something, he doesn't have a choice. By law, he must comply with the wishes of the Army. Some wives never understand this and it is the cause of many failed marriages.

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    Avoid breaking Army regulations while on an Army base because he will ultimately be held accountable. You must understand that whatever you do, it is a reflection on the soldier.

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    Realize that if you are an officer's wife, and to some degree a non-commissioned officers wife, you are expected to socialize to some degree with other service members wives. The Army look at itself as a family, and you don't want to become aloof from the other wives.

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    Become as self-sufficient as possible. There will be times when your husband will be sent on missions or stationed in places that you cannot go. Sometimes the separation can be more than a year at a time. You must be able to cope and raise a family without your spouse there to help you, but you can turn to other Army wives for support.

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    Become knowledgeable about what it is that your husband does. The Army life can be hard at times, and it helps if a soldier has a spouse that understands what kind of pressure the soldier is under. Learning to pack an "away bag" for a spontaneous mission away from home is a good way to become involved.

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    Understand that sometimes your spouse may be sent overseas. A wife with a good attitude can be a godsend to a soldier. Think of an overseas assignment as a chance to meet new people and to learn new things. An assignment overseas can be something that you and your spouse will remember forever.

Tips and warnings

  • Because life in the Army can sometimes be hard on the family, there are family support groups within the Army. Things such as drug abuse, alcohol abuse and even spouse abuse are routinely handled by Army support groups. If you are having trouble in your marriage or in you own personal life, the Army has a vested interest in helping your family cope with it.
  • Get used to waiting in lines. There is a saying in the Army: "Hurry up and wait". If you are going to get a new ID Card or you are doing other business with the Army, be prepared to wait.

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