Mother of the Groom Duties

As mother of the groom there can be a good amount of awkward moments, especially if you are unsure of what you should be doing. Realising that you do have many traditional responsibilities will help you to focus on those and not overstep your bounds, which can upset the bride.

Engagement Party

Although not as popular today, an engagement party is perfect for the bride's immediate family to get to know your immediate family. As soon as possible after your son gets engaged, host this home-style dinner.


Plan to attend all the bridal showers you are invited to, and bring a gift. If you live nearby, offer to help the mother of the bride if she is throwing a party. However do not expect to be invited to the bachelorette party.

Wedding attire

Finding the perfect outfit can be a challenge because you want to look good but you do not want to stand out either. If possible, go on a shopping trip with the mother of the bride to find outfits that will complement each other. Try to avoid the exact colour of the bridesmaids' dresses and dresses of black or white.

Guest list

Put together the groom's side of the guest list as soon as you can.List everyone you wish could attend the wedding, but you might have to trim that list once the bride knows the limit on guests. Also keep track of your RSVPs and offer to call the guests from your list that do not send a reply.

Rehearsal Dinner

Traditionally, the parents of the groom host the rehearsal dinner. Plan it to start directly after the rehearsal. Send out the invitations early. This is the perfect time to officially welcome your new daughter-in-law into your family since her family will be there.


Stand in the receiving line if there is one. Help introduce the guests from your side to the bride's family and friends. Dance with your son in the traditional mother/son dance.

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