Ideas for a 21st Birthday for a Daughter

Updated July 18, 2017

While turning 21 is a milestone for younger adults in the United States because it means they can legally drink, it is also the age that is generally accepted as the beginning of adulthood. This milestone can be a wonderful time to impart knowledge to your daughter or make some new memories while remembering old ones.

Wine Tasting or Pub Crawl

Take your daughter to a wine tasting or on a pub crawl. Talk with your daughter about mistakes or good choices you made when younger regarding alcohol and use the opportunity to talk about responsible behaviour, both on her part and the parts of her friends. Before you go decide how you are going to get home safely together, whether it be by public transportation, walking or having a designated driver.

When She Was Little

If you still live in the area where you raised your daughter, take her on a trip down memory lane. Plan a day where you go do the things that you used to do when she was a child, such as go to the park or zoo, eat at a favourite restaurant, shop at a special store or play games that she played when she was younger. Take pictures for a photo album or digital scrapbook.


Buy or make a mother-daughter or father-daughter journal to fill out together. These journals are available at many bookstores, or you can make one by putting a question and a duplicate of the question on facing pages of a blank book. Fill the book out with your daughter, answering questions for and about each other. Include some pictures in your book, as well as questions about the past, present and future.

Write Her a Letter

Hand-write your daughter a letter of things you would like her to remember, whether it be memories or pieces of advice. Do not just list points for her; tell her why you are writing and give the letter a nice closing as well. Write the letter on quality paper or in a nice card with a nicely decorated envelope, or frame the letter so she can see it every day.

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About the Author

Aube Ergine began writing professionally for Demand Media in 2010 and has experience with grant writing, activity and event planning, and lesson planning. She has worked with children and youth for 15 years in schools and recreational settings.