Finding that you've lost the original spark of your relationship can be disheartening. Luckily, this is a common problem and something that most couples have to deal with. Therefore, there is a plethora of ideas out there and all you have to do is find the suggestion that works for your specific relationship. Discovering the lost magic in your relationship is a journey as well as a destination, so enjoy the journey.
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Set aside a date night once a week and stick to it. Though you may be pressed for time, it is important to set one night a week to spend quality time with your partner. Take turns planning the date night. More important than what you actually do is that you commit to observing this night even when life gets in the way.
Discover a new hobby you both enjoy. As your relationship has progressed, your interests may have diverged such that you are spending your free time pursuing interests you don't share with your partner. While separate interests are normal and healthy for any relationship, finding a way to explore a new hobby together can help put the spark back into your relationship.
Take a vacation. Plan a romantic getaway together. Depending on your finances, this may be limited to a weekend at a nearby bed and breakfast, or a week in Paris. Even just planning the vacation together will bring you closer. Make sure you schedule plenty of relaxation time during the actual vacation; many people who travel try to do too much within the allotted time and return frazzled and even more stressed.
Work on your communication. Many times you may be feeling a lack of connection simply because you do not have time to communicate or because you are communicating ineffectively. Try to check in with each other every day while also setting aside time for longer, more intimate discussions.
Explore your sensual side. Give each other massages or foot rubs. Feed each other chocolates or fruits. Relax by a fireside with a glass of wine and mood music. Heightening your senses while in each other's company can stir the same feelings you had for each other as when you first fell in love.
See a couples therapist. If you have tried many of these tips and still find the spark missing, it may be time to get some help. There may be underlying issues that need to be resolved before it is possible to pursue the increased intimacy you desire.
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