How to Tell Your Roommate He Is Too Loud?

Written by todd bowerman
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If you cannot afford to live by yourself or simply do not enjoy being alone, having a roommate is an excellent solution. A roommate provides you with social interaction and helps you cover expensive bills like rent and utilities. However, having a roommate comes with a certain amount of sacrifice and often requires extreme patience. If you find that your roommate is too loud for you to bear, you can have a chat with him to try to solve the problem.

Skill level:
Moderately Challenging


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    Isolate the details of the problem to better work through a solution. Are you upset because your roommate is loud all the time, or only because he is loud when you need to sleep? Are you concerned that neighbours might complain? Figure out why you are upset before starting the conversation.

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    Assess whether the loudness issue is a sensitive topic. If your roommate listens to loud music or turns the television volume up too high, the situation is far less delicate than if he and his girlfriend are overly noisy during sexual activity. Sensitive subjects will require a more delicate approach.

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    Approach your roommate when he is alone and in the apartment. Working through difficult issues is easier without a third party. Make sure you are not interrupting any homework or job tasks with this chat.

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    Explain to your roommate that his noise level is making it hard for you to live. Stay calm and avoid hurling insults or causing a scene. Simply walk him through why it is a concern and he likely will understand. Be clear about why his noise is affecting you and when you find it to be most problematic.

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    Present your roommate with solutions to the problem. You will find most tense situations are easier to deal with if you have an idea of how to solve them. Try designated quiet periods during certain hours or a general reduction of the noise level. Headphones can lessen music noise and you might find that buying your own resolves some of the problems immediately. You can even try moving furniture in your rooms to get farther away from the wall. Work with your roommate to find the best solution.

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