How to Request Donations As Wedding Gifts

Updated February 21, 2017

For a couple who has everything, wedding gifts may become a burden--exchanging blenders and bedspreads for gift cards that may expire before they can use them. If you are the bride and groom, then consider giving your guests the option of donating to your favourite charity. It's not proper to talk about gift-giving out in the open, so you will have to be creative in how you get your message out.

Inform your bridal party of your wish to have guests make donations to a charity of your choice, instead of buying wedding gifts. Make sure this includes key players--such as the bride's and groom's mothers, the maid of honour, the best man and anyone sponsoring a shower. It is not proper to indicate your wishes on any kind of invitation. The message must be spread by word of mouth, writes the wedding website, The Knot. "Even though it is assumed that guests will give wedding gifts, you can't ask for them--in any form--outright, and so putting a specific request on invitations would be inappropriate and even presumptuous," according to the website.

E-mail your key bridal party attendants and your closest friends. Outline the specifics for donating to the charity. Make sure you send a link to the online donation page and information on how to send a snail-mail donation. This is not an e-mail that should be forwarded to wedding guests--at least not with your name attached to it. It simply is an informational e-mail that your key players and closest friends can use to inform guests who ask where you are registered.

Explain your requests to people who ask. Do not offer the information. But if a wedding or shower guest asks where you are registered, then you have a perfect opportunity to share your desires. Consider telling the guest: "Thank you so much for wanting to give Bill and me a wedding gift. We aren't registered anywhere. We seem to have everything! But we have set up a charity account with XYZ Organization. You can make a donation in our honour, if you wish, and your tax-deductible gift will help bring clean water to XYZ Country."

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Vera Leigh has worked as a professional freelance writer since 2008. Her work has appeared in "Learn Overseas" and "Grad Source" magazines. In addition, she received an honorable mention in "Newsweek's" My Turn contest. She has written features for nonprofits focused on literacy, education, genomics and health. In her spare time, Leigh puts her English major to use by tutoring in grammar and composition.