There are many different reasons that a marriage can break, causing both spouses to suffer and struggle to determine the best course of action. If you are determined to heal your broken marriage you will need to make sure that your spouse is on board and as determined as you are to make things better. Once a broken marriage is healed, the bond between spouses is often stronger and happier than every before, leading to a healthy and long-lasting marriage.
Determine the issues that broke your marriage. Be open and honest with your spouse about what happened to cause the discord in your relationship in your opinion. Listen to your spouse's point of view as well. Record each issue that you and your spouse come up with and save it for your reference going forward.
Commit to one another that you are both willing to put your all into repairing your marriage. In order to fix a broken marriage you and your spouse need to be dedicated to making things better. If only one spouse is interested in making the marriage work, things will almost never get resolved.
Consider the professional advice and expertise of a marriage counsellor to help you resolve the issues that are too big for you and your spouse to figure out. Marriage counselling will give you both a chance to talk about your feelings with a third party, which allows for a different perspective on your issues.
Communicate with your spouse positively when he does something that makes you happy. Repairing a broken marriage is going to take a lot of time and effort, so letting your spouse know when he is on the right path is a good way to keep up motivation and resolve. Don't be afraid to communicate positively when he does something that upsets you as well. Open communication is important when repairing a broken marriage.
Focus on getting to know one another again. Go on a romantic vacation if you have the time and resources to do so. Go out on a nice date and spend time together at the end of a long day talking and playing games. Do things that you both find fun and enjoyable together to get back to having fun in your relationship.