How to write a wedding invitation

Updated February 21, 2017

Be original on your wedding invitations and don't simply settle for the generic pre-written invitation. Use your own voice to describe how special this event is and how important it is to you that your guests attend the ceremony. Send out invitations at least six weeks before the ceremony to give your guests plenty of time to make travel arrangements.

Decide who is announcing the wedding - the couple's parents or the bride and groom themselves.

Determine if your invitation will be formal or informal. You can say 'Mr. and Mrs. Marcus Melendy request the honor of your presence' or use a more casual phrase like 'please join us.'

In general, use the term 'the honor of your presence' if the ceremony will be held in a place of worship. Otherwise use 'the pleasure of your company' or another less formal phrase.

For a traditional invitation, list the bride's name - usually first and middle - after her parents' names. For example, 'Mr. and Mrs. Marcus Melendy request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter, Wendy Sue.'

Follow the bride's name with the full name of the groom: 'to John Jacob Williams.' You may choose to name the groom's parents: 'son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Williams.'

Write out the date: 'Friday, the ninth of June, two thousand one.'

Mention the time of the ceremony: 'at ten o'clock.'

List the location and full address.

Enclose a separate map and a stamped, self-addressed reply card.


Invitations to a small or informal wedding are usually handwritten, not engraved. In designing them, feel free to use your imagination. Include all the guests' names on the envelope. Avoid impersonal terms such as 'and family.' If you want to depart from the traditional wording, consult your stationer for ideas - or look at wedding invitations you've received, and and decide which ones you like best.

Things You'll Need

  • Writing Pens
  • Stationery
  • Personalized Stationery
  • Wedding Programs
  • Wedding Invitations
  • Postage Stamps
  • Wedding Planner Book
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