What to say on a funeral flower arrangement

Updated November 22, 2016

Flowers are a beautiful way to express feelings and to extend a gesture of comfort to those who have lost a loved one. Selecting a lovely arrangement is the easy part, but it can be difficult to put feelings and thoughts into words during a time of mourning. With flowers, you are sending a tangible message of support, grief, respect, sympathy or love--so it's important to ensure that your written note is equally as sincere.

Identify Yourself

You may have just seen the grieving family last week, but don't count on them to know who "Jane" is during their time of loss and chaos. To ensure they receive your warm wishes and make their thank-you writing easier, recommends that you clearly identify yourself and include a mailing address, as well.

Keep It Short

It is best to keep your note concise and get straight to the point. Your space, after all, is limited on the card sent with an arrangement. At best, according to, you have a few sentences to get your message across.

Avoid Cliche

"In memory of..." "In Sympathy..." "Time heals all wounds."

These phrases and other clich├ęs will be repeated over and over from others. Instead, keep it personal and let the family know how you really felt about their loved one.

"I will miss her smile." "Her laughter will always be remembered." "I'll always remember him in his old fishing hat."

Take a moment to think about the deceased and to honestly convey what the loss means to you personally.

At a Loss

The funeral arrangement sympathy card may be difficult to write if you know the deceased, but not the family-- or you know the family but not the loved one they have lost. In cases where you are dealing with an unknown, a simple sentence or two of condolence is acceptable. recommends simple phrases such as: "I'm praying for you" and "Our thoughts and prayers are with you."

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