I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources, today we're going to be talking about signals of the kind you don't want to get. Specifically, signs your wife is cheating on you. The challenge is if you have this intuition it's said to say, most of the time you are right. If you feel like your wife is cheating on you, then it's a matter of you picking up on some of the subtle or direct changes in their behavior that signal to you that something is indeed wrong. Is she doting on you? Giving you a lot more affection, perhaps asking for sex a lot more often or maybe the opposite, you may have had sex three times a week and now it's done to zero or once every month or so. There are some subtle signs as well. Maybe she is buying you flowers, maybe she is buying things for the children and trying to really actually deflect some behavior. But recognize that the subtle things need to be paid attention to and there are also some very overt things that are taking place as well. For example, is she buying new underwear? Is she trying to make herself over with a new hairdo, new clothes, perhaps going to the gym more often, perhaps dieting. So you need to be aware of these things that are taking place. A very offensive technique is also maybe putting the blame on you saying that perhaps you're cheating or you're paying attention to your secretary or girlfriends and so these are kind of deflection techniques or she maybe introducing some type of anger animosity into the relationship so that she doesn't feel bad about what she's doing. So you can go to the extremes of monitoring her phones, voice mails, e-mails and follow her at work or where she's going after work, electronic surveillance, there's even a television show Cheaters that if you qualify, you may be able to have that all documented on camera if that's what you want to do. But you need to understand that in all relationship, there is joint responsibility, nobody's 100% at fault and nobody is at 0% at fault either. So you need to have responsibility. If all this else fails, try the direct approach, have you asked her? And watch for behavior. Is she nervous? Will she avert your eyes? Avert looking at you? So as a last resort you may want to talk to her friends, talk to her family, because often times friends don't respect what's happening here and they want, they don't want you to be a victim either. So these are things that you can take a look at to determine subtly and directly if you feel like your wife is cheating. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources, relationships for life.