Relationships take work and dedication. Falling in love is easy enough, but maintaining a healthy, committed relationship takes work. Unfortunately, if you are one of the many who turn around one day and ask yourself, "Where did the love go?" you aren't alone. Knowing the signs of a loveless relationship can help you decide what you need to do next.
You Spend More Time Apart Than Usual
Every couple should spend some time apart. Healthy relationships consist of two people who are still able to maintain separate identities. However, if you are choosing to spend time away from your partner just to avoid him, then that could signal something is up. People in a loveless relationship will drift apart. They stop doing the things they used to do and may even dread the thought of attending social functions together.
Conversation Becomes a Struggle
When two people are in love, they enjoy each other's company and are excited to talk to each other. Couples in a loveless relationship will find themselves talking less frequently. They may even argue and bicker, making conversation unpleasant. If you start to argue often enough, the two of you eventually avoid conversation altogether. Not being able to talk through your problems, or not wanting to talk about your problems can be a sign that the love has disappeared in the relationship.
You Become Less Giving
In a healthy, loving relationship, each person gives to the other. For example, you may take him to lunch just out of the blue, or he may bring you home flowers for no special reason. In a loveless relationship, each of you begins to think more about yourself and less about the other person. You may even become selfish, which leads to bigger problems. When each person is only thinking about himself, there is no mutual respect for each other. The relationship can break down very quickly once you become selfish.
You Are Thinking of Calling It Quits
If you are thinking of calling it quits, then it's a good sign that the love is gone. If it doesn't break your heart to lose the other person, then it's time to call it quits and move on with your life. If there are problems that you believe could be addressed, then feel free to work on them with your partner. However, if you've tried to work together and have attended counselling sessions and things still haven't changed for you; then it's time to admit to yourself that maybe the love is gone.