How to write an apology letter to someone special

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How to write an apology letter to someone special
Writing apology letters can be a tough situation. (Jupiterimages/BananaStock/Getty Images)

No one gets through life without making mistakes, some bigger than others. If you have greatly hurt that special someone in your life, whether it's your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, nothing can be more difficult than trying to convey your regrets and how sorry you are about the situation. One intimate way to apologise is to pen a heartfelt letter.

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Things you need

  • Pen or pencil
  • Paper
  • Addressed envelope
  • Stamp

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    Hand write your apology letter. Handwritten letters are the most personal way to go. They show time and dedication, and are far more intimate than e-mails or typewritten letters. Apart from hand writing the actual letter, be sure also to hand write the name and address on the envelope.

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    Explain exactly why you are apologising. Chances are, the person is entirely aware of why you are saying sorry. However, for the point of the letter, it is important to pour your heart out and explain all of your thoughts and feelings. Simply saying "I'm sorry" will not suffice. Whether you cheated on your significant other or raised your voice one too many times, it is vital to illustrate the situation and what exactly you are sorry about.

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    Adopt a sincere tone. This is not a casual love note. This is a serious apology letter. It is important to come across as sincere as possible, and to avoid making light of the situation with jokes. It is also important not to come across as bitter or angry, which is a common pitfall of apology letters. Avoid insulting the other person or placing blame.

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    Offer a solution. The whole point of an apology letter is either to develop some closure so that both of you can move on, or to patch things up for the future. It is important for you to present a solution. Either say that you understand if she wants to end the relationship with you, or ask for another chance and present to her a way that you can make things up to her. Be clear and do not beat around the bush. Indicate exactly what you want to accomplish with the letter, and leave no room for uncertainty or confusion.

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    Bring up happy memories. One meaningful way to close an apology letter is by mentioning a happy time that the both of you spent together. This can help to remind him what he liked you about you in the first place and help him focus on that, rather than what he is angry about. For example, talk about your first date and how you got spaghetti sauce all over your blouse and had to rush home to change or your vacation to Hawaii and that day you walked 10 miles on the beach together.

Tips and warnings

  • It is important not to be rash when sending out apology letters, but it also is beneficial to send them out as soon as you can. First, however, make sure you thoroughly think over your situation, and think about exactly what you want the end outcome to be.

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