How to Make a Guy Fall in Love With You Over Long Distance
Many couples are attempting to maintain long-distance relationships. Whether your jobs are keeping you and your boyfriend apart, or you have to move after graduating college and can't live in the same city right now, it's probably important to you to keep your relationship thriving.
If you're starting out a relationship and you're living far apart, you'll want to make your guy fall for you regardless of the miles between you.
- Many couples are attempting to maintain long-distance relationships.
- If you're starting out a relationship and you're living far apart, you'll want to make your guy fall for you regardless of the miles between you.
Communicate. By talking on the phone and writing each other letters or e-mails, you can learn a lot about each other. Be honest and open; it's necessary to communicate your goals, interests and desires. These are the things that will determine whether or not you two are a good match. Plus, these are the things that will make you boyfriend fall in love with you, since they're the deepest parts of each other that you'll be sharing.
Relax. It can sometimes feel that the state of your long-distance relationship depends on every call and conversation, and that missing any opportunity to connect with your boyfriend means doom for your relationship. This isn't the case, though, and your guy wants to know that you're confident enough to go with the flow and handle situations that don't go as perfectly as planned. This is extremely attractive in any relationship, especially a long-distance one.
- It can sometimes feel that the state of your long-distance relationship depends on every call and conversation, and that missing any opportunity to connect with your boyfriend means doom for your relationship.
Have fun. You can't spend every second of your calls or e-mails talking about your feelings for each other. A relationship grows from having fun together, too. Play games online together, or scan and trade childhood pictures. Look at fun date ideas that you can do together when you finally see each other again. Guys love fun-loving girls who know when to be serious and when to be goofy.
Understand that long-distance relationships will take longer than normal to grow. Even healthy relationships have their fair share of conflict, and this is ultimately what makes a couple grow closer. Long-distance relationships, however, don't have as much conflict in the beginning stages, because the little bit of time that you spend together isn't spoiled with arguments. Therefore, it can take longer for you and your boyfriend to grow closer. However, if you're in a relationship that you both want, you'll eventually get there.
As a full-time writer in New York's Hudson Valley, Lindsay Pietroluongo's nightlife column and photos have appeared regularly in the "Poughkeepsie Journal" since 2007. Additional publications include "Chronogram," the "New Paltz Sojourn," "About Town" newspaper and "Outsider" magazine. Pietroluongo graduated from Marist College with a B.A. in English.