Anger is a normal human emotion, but in some children it may seem uncontrollable. You may find that your child has one of two issues. One is dealing with anger in the situations that surround him, such as understanding why mom and dad are angry or constantly arguing. The other is when your child feels angry himself and, in many cases, cannot express the reason for his anger or figure out how to control it.
There are dozens of resources, both online and off, for the parents of children with anger-management issues. Through the use of these resources you and your children will learn how to understand and control anger positively.
Get Your ANGRIES Out!
"Get Your ANGRIES Out!" is an anger-management website designed for use by children, parents, couples, teachers and anyone who needs to deal with anger. The website is run by Talk, Trust & Feel Therapeutics, a group responsible for creating activities and toys for parents and therapists to use when working with their children.
The section "For Kids" features a myriad of articles and interactive exercises designed to help children understand what anger is, how it affects their lives and how to deal with it in a positive manner. The goal is to help children understand how to release their anger without hurting themselves or anyone else.
Emotional Freedom Technique
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), developed by Gary Craig, is a widespread, yet little known, therapy that therapists use to help balance the body's energy system in order to alleviate emotional stress. The technique uses a combination of focused breathing in conjunction with tapping over acupressure points on the face, chest, and hands in order to release stress, anger, emotional fears and the pain associated with nearly any negative situation.
Many children don't want to talk about things that are upsetting. EFT is a wonderful therapy for children because they can learn to release their feelings of anger without necessarily having a conversation about their triggers. You can either find a therapist who is familiar with the technique or learn how to do it yourself and then teach your child. Either way, consult your physician or paediatrician before beginning this therapy.
Paediatric Therapy Network
The Pediatric Therapy Network was formed in 1996 by a group of parents and therapists who recognised the need to provide specialised services to children with special needs, including those with anger-management issues. The original founders spent years developing the Los Angeles County centre into a place where children and their families could work together to sort through their problems.
While based out of Los Angeles, the Pediatric Therapy Network can help parents to find therapy resources all around the world. It also lists several additional resource links on their website, giving parents access to information about camps, clubs, sports and other activities children can participate in as they learn how to deal with their anger management problems.
PBS has long been one of the most family-oriented television channels on the air. The experienced staff at PBS have taken their dedication to children a step farther by creating a website where children and parents alike can find information and resources they can use when dealing with anger management.
On the PBS website, you will find articles about children and anger management as well as a number of activities you can do with your child to teach about anger. You'll find printable journal pages, puzzles and videos as well as additional resources you can use to learn about anger, so you are better able to discuss it with your child.
Dealing with Anger in Children
Your child needs to recognise that anger is a single emotion and one that can be controlled. Remain calm when your child has an angry outburst and be both firm and consistent if and when you have to discipline your child because of outbursts.
Getting to the root of your child's anger issues is paramount. You will never gain full control of the situation if you do not identify the triggers that result in anger. Consult your physician, paediatrician or counsellor for additional information or for help if the situation seems out of control.