How to Promote Independence & Self Reliance

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How to Promote Independence & Self Reliance
Encourage your child's independence whenever possible. (David Sacks/Lifesize/Getty Images)

Parents who combine their demands for conformity with respect for their children's individuality are more likely to raise children who embrace autonomy, according to the U.S. Department of Education. Promoting self-reliance and independence in your child requires a delicate balance. Providing too little independence can cause your child to become overly dependent, while giving too much independence too soon can result in a child who is insecure. Let your child's age and development guide you and be patient in your effort to raise a confident, independent child.

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    Teach your child to perform age appropriate tasks on his own. Ask your child to help you to perform the task and teach him each step as you go along. Praise him throughout to boost his confidence and to motivate him to continue to try.

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    Encourage your child to perform age appropriate tasks on his own such as picking up his toys. Keep in mind that initially he might take longer to perform the tasks and might not do so perfectly.

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    Hold your child accountable for the completion of chores you give him. Do not perform the tasks for him if he fails to do so; instead, remind him that he is responsibile for completing the tasks.

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    Respect your child's desire to do things on his own and allow him to do so if he is capable. Allow your child to make his own choices, when possible, such as choosing clothing, snacks and play activities.

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    Allow your child the room to make mistakes so that he can learn from them. Do not hover as he tries to complete tasks; and allow him to pursue a path even if you know it is wrong, unless doing so will harm the child.

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    Offer assistance only when the child requests help. Do not immediately give your child the answers; instead, guide him through the reasoning process so that he can reach the solution on his own. Praise your child's efforts even when his decisions do not result in the correct answer. Do not make your praise dependent on success.

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    Begin teaching your children about responsibility at a young age. Teach older children about money and how to budget and save and teach them household skills such as cooking and cleaning as well.

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