Signs a married man is in love with you

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As anybody who has played the dating game knows, you can't help who you fall in love with. In turn, you have very little control over the people who fall in love with you. In many cases, we may be enamoured with a potential suitor and go on to have a long and happy relationship.

However, a romance with a married man throws up its fair share of problems and, ideally, liaisons with the partner of another woman should be vigorously avoided. How can you tell if a married man is really in love with you?

Is he actually married?

Perhaps the most obvious thing to consider is whether the man you are dating is married. Honesty is a vital part of any relationship, and you need to consider whether his constant excuses are genuine, or if there is an underlying current of deception. Does he really have to work late? Does he really spend that much time with his friends? Can your car really break down three times in the same week? It may be a case of your man actually telling you the truth, but a frequent flow of excuses might indicate he has more serious commitments elsewhere -- possibly a wife -- and his declarations of love are little more than words.

Are you just a passing fancy?

Sadly, there are a large number of men who give the rest of the species a bad name, and their agenda only extends as far as taking you to bed. You already may suspect or be aware of the fact that your man is married, but how does he actually treat you? Do your dates mainly take place in the bedroom or in a hotel, or does he go out of his way to spend quality time with you? If a married man is in love with you, he'll show a genuine interest in everything about you. If your work, your friends and your hobbies are equally as important to him as they are to you, he might genuinely love you.


One of the most obvious signs of a married man loving you is his display of commitment. If you have been seeing each other for some time and he's continually pressing you to be with him on a permanent basis, irrespective of the problems that it may cause in his own life, it would initially appear that he genuinely loves you. However, some men habitually balk at the prospect of leaving their comfortable family lives behind. Often, an affair is little more than a substitute for key aspects that are missing from his married relationship. If your man is prepared to lose everything for you, his expressions of love may be the real thing.

Being apart

How does your man behave when you are not together? Does he try to maintain constant contact with you throughout the day or do his calls and text messages only occur at times when he is likely to be out of the family home? If he continually takes risks in front of his wife to talk to you, then you are at least prominent in his mind. If nothing else, the chances are that he genuinely cares for you. However, a stolen phone call every few days and the constant cancellation of any scheduled dates indicates that his true priorities lie elsewhere.