Comforting a grieving person can be hard at times. You may feel as if you don't know the right thing to say or do to offer sympathy in the appropriate manner. Many people choose to express their sympathy through a card or floral arrangement but struggle with appropriate wording. Much of the difficulty of offering sympathy can be avoided by simply speaking or writing with sincerity.
The Floral Arrangement Card
After you choose a floral arrangement to send to a funeral, you must decide what to write on the card. Because a card attached to a floral arrangement is much smaller than an actual sympathy card, write with brevity while remaining compassionate. Compassion is crucial when offering sympathy to someone who is grieving.
Comforting a Close Friend
If you write a card to a close friend, feel free to express your sympathy in a way to which you feel she will best respond. There is no need to speak formally or use stilted language you wouldn't ordinarily use with her. Just express your sympathy honestly, and know that she will be comforted by the familiarity and love with which you have written to her. You can write something as short as, "I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm here for you whenever you need me." If you knew the decedent, it is appropriate to mention a favourite memory of him or express how much you will miss him as well.
Expressing Sympathy Toward an Acquaintance
If you send flowers to the funeral of a co-worker, employee or someone with whom you weren't very familiar, many of the same guidelines apply. Write with compassion and brevity, but the message may be a bit more formal. If you know the family is religious and you feel comfortable doing so, you may write a message that refers to their faith. Otherwise, write a brief note that assures the family that your thoughts are with them and that you are sorry for their loss. The decedent's family will appreciate the time and effort you put into sending flowers to the funeral, and they likely will draw needed comfort from the card even though they don't know you personally.
Expressing sympathy through a floral arrangement card does not have to be difficult, although it often seems to be. Just consider what the grieving party would gather the most comfort and support from, and act accordingly.