What to Write in a Wedding Thank-You Card

Updated March 23, 2017

Newlyweds are obligated to write personal notes of gratitude for their wedding gifts. Saying "thank you" is a simple task. Armed with a few pointers, couples can move down their guest list in a socially acceptable way.


Follow basic tips to follow appropriate wedding thank note etiquette. Make your thank-you cards personal. Begin with "Dear Sally." In the body of the note, mention the gift. For example, "Thank you for the silver platter." Mention what the gift means to you and your spouse. In the case of the silver platter, you might write, "We look forward to using it at all of our special dinners." Show enthusiasm without overdoing it. Sign both spouses names.


Emily Post, the queen of etiquette, cautions you to avoid pitfalls for thank-you notes. Follow her guidance and you will write perfect notes of gratitude, leaving a gracious mark to the end of your most important day. Form messages lack thoughtfulness. Use cards without messages on the inside. Do not send thank-you messages by e-mail nor should you telephone your thank yous. Never refer to any displeasure you may have regarding a gift. Write a gracious note for every gift, regardless of value. No matter how late you send your thank-you notes, never excuse your lateness.


Give each gift its own thank-you card. If one person gave you a wedding shower gift and a wedding gift, you must write separate notes. Write your notes in black or blue ink. Do not use coloured ink. Rarely refer to yourself.

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