Gifts play a large role in traditional Islamic weddings. Not only are gifts given to the couple at the wedding but also before the wedding. Because Islamic weddings occur in many countries and in different parts of the world, the traditions can also follow local custom. The bride and groom's family play an important role in Muslim weddings and also in gift giving associated with the wedding.
Gifts from Guests
Wedding guests usually bring gifts to the wedding ceremony. This might be money, but the gift should not be expensive. Extravagant gifts that aren't practical for everyday use are not recommended for Muslim weddings. For modern couples, consider giving a small kitchen appliance or utensil. Anything practical for the home like flower vases, decorations or linens is appropriate. Money is most often given to the couple by family and close friends for future expenses. Alcohol is never served at Muslim weddings so do not give alcohol to the couple.
The bride and groom's families exchange gifts twice. The two families give gifts before the wedding. This gift is often a copy of the Koran. The families also exchange presents right after the ceremony. The bride's family gives another gift to just the groom the day after the wedding. Traditionally, the bride and groom both spend the wedding night at the bride's home, but in different rooms. In the morning, the bride's family gives the groom a gift. The bride and groom then leave to start a new life and go to their home.
In Muslim weddings, the groom gives the bride a gift. This is called the meher. Traditionally this is a two-part monetary gift that the groom gives the bride before the wedding and over the span of the marriage. Now, couples use the wedding ring given to the bride as the part of the gift that comes before the wedding. The amount given to the bride over the marriage can be small and isn't always money. The meher can also be land, jewellery or education. The meher is given to secure a bride's right to freedom within the marriage.