Things Men Do to Attract Women

Updated March 18, 2017

When a man is attracted to a woman and wants to get her interest, he will often go to great measures. If you are a woman and want to be able to read the signs regarding whether a man is flirting with you and trying to attract you to him, it can be very helpful to be aware of several key things.


When men are around a woman they wish to impress, they will often try to play up their charm (sometimes painfully so). Men will try to tell jokes and tease a woman in a playful manner. They will also go out of their way to act in a chivalrous way, such as jumping ahead to open a door for a woman and offering to help her carry something. If a man is going out of his way to be witty and quick in his conversations with you, he likely is trying very hard to keep up with and impress you.


All men are aware that women go for good grooming habits. A major turn-off for most women is men who have a greasy or oily appearance, especially if they happen to smell bad, too. When a man is attempting to court the woman of his dreams, he often wears cologne, is perfectly shaven at all times, and makes sure that his hair looks immaculately combed and coiffed. In unfortunate instances, men overdo it with the cologne or aftershave, which can be quite off-putting.


When a man is really head-over-heels for a woman, he will often try to research things that she is interested in to make conversation with her. If a man is not interested in tennis or gourmet French cuisine, he might read up on the subject to give the woman the impression that he either is worldly or simply has a lot in common with her.

Working Out

Men also often try to attract women by being physically fit. Some men even sign up for gym memberships in order to attract the object of their affection. Men will often try to tone up and slim down on the cardio machines (such as elliptical trainers and treadmills) and buff up in the weight room.


In some situations, men will brag to get a woman's attention and to get her to become attracted to him. This can often backfire, however, and convince a woman that the man is arrogant and conceited, rather than attractive and worth her time. A couple of examples of this include loudly talking about his car, wearing flashy attire, and talking about a recent pay raise or job bonus.


The stereotype for men is that they simply aren't good listeners. When a man is interested in a woman, he will likely go out of his way to show that he is interested in what she is saying, by maintaining extensive eye contact and also by posing a lot of questions, about anything from her life and friends to her aspirations and hobbies.

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Lars Tramilton has been writing professionally since 2007. His work has appeared in a variety of online publications, including CareerWorkstation. Tramilton received a bachelor's degree with a focus on elementary education from Kean University.