No relationship is perfect, and all marriages have their ups and downs. Many couples focus on reducing conflict and ignore another area in their marriage that may be just as toxic: boredom. Boredom can be harmful to relationships because couples do not find their relationships as rewarding and, as a result, they are more likely to divorce. To avoid boredom, couples should develop some shared interests and hobbies. When couples share interests they have more to talk about, and the shared excitement replicates the feeling of love in the brain, which makes the couple feel more bonded.
Sports provide many opportunities for couples to share hobbies. If you both are active people, take walks together and explore your city or town. Hiking and camping are other possibilities for a shared hobby; people of all athletic abilities can enjoy easy day hikes, and camping offers endless opportunities to explore other loves such as fishing, boating or bird watching. If spectator sports are more your speed, make a commitment to watch a sport that you both enjoy together either on television or live. Catch a professional baseball game or watch the local high school football team beat its rivals.
Learn a Craft or Skill Together
Men as well as women enjoy crafts; the trick is finding one that you both enjoy. List some things you have always wanted to learn and do it together. Whether you learn Italian and explore Italian culture together, or learn how to create stained glass, learning a new skill or craft can provide you both with years of enjoyment. Also, because you are learning it together, you are on even footing and neither of you is "teaching" the other, which can cause resentment.
Film and the Arts
If culture and the arts are more your style, explore the world of theatre, music or the arts together. Choose a kind of film you want to explore and watch several examples of film in that genre. This will give you plenty of time to cuddle on the couch and watch together, and afterward you will have a lot to discuss. If you two are more hands-on, take an art class or treat yourself to a dance class.
Cooking and Food
Maybe food is your passion; if so, there are thousands of cookbooks for you to try. Plan meals together and divide the work; then, enjoy your meal together. Over time you can develop a repertoire of delicious meals. If dining out is your speed, develop a hobby of trying and critiquing new foods. Try new and exciting restaurants in town and create a blog together to post your reviews, for example.