Taking the time to write someone a sympathy card, in our electronic age, is a thoughtful way of expressing sympathy after a loved one's passing. There is some etiquette to writing sympathy cards. Hand write your note legibly in blue or black ink and clearly identify yourself as the sender, especially if you have been estranged or are a distant relative. Also, take time and care in choosing the right words.
Personal Sympathy Cards
Tailor a generic sympathy card message to the deceased person's family and you will have made a personal sympathy card. Personalising the message adds warmth to the sympathy card message---especially if you didn't truly know the person, but you did know the family.
Examples of personalised messages: "I was deeply saddened when I heard about Mary's passing." "Please accept my sympathy for the loss of your grandfather." "As you grieve know that we are remembering you and honouring Frank's memory." "Please accept our deepest sympathy for the loss of your mother."
Generic Sympathy Cards
Generic sympathy messages serve the purpose of most sympathy cards but they lack a personal nature. You may prefer to send a generic sympathy message if you did not know the deceased so you feel uncomfortable writing a personal message. Keep it simple and honest.
Examples of generic sympathy messages: "My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow." "Please accept my heartfelt sympathies for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time." "Please know our loving thoughts embrace you." "Please accept these flowers and hear the words we are not able to speak." "Thinking of you in these difficult times." "May the peace that comes from the memories of love shared comfort you now and in the days ahead." "Our hearts are filled with sorrow." "We're sharing your sorrow." "With deepest sympathy." "In loving memory." "With heartfelt condolences." "Fondest remembrances." "Always in our hearts." "Gone but not forgotten."
Religious Sympathy Messages
Religious sympathy may be appropriate, depending on the religious affiliation of the deceased and her family. Be aware of which religious affiliation the deceased and her family have, so as not to offend. Examples of religious sympathy messages:
"My thoughts and prayers are with you." "May you take comfort in knowing there is one more angel above us." "You are in our thoughts and prayers." "You will be in our thoughts and prayers." "We pray the love of God enfolds you during your difficult times and he helps you heal with the passage of time." "We pray for the love of God to bring you smiles during your difficult times and it helps you to heal your pain with the passage of time." "His garden must be beautiful." "For He only takes the best."