Gone are the days when a wedding for a mature bride and groom had to be a reserved affair. Couples can make plans for as much flair as they desire to celebrate their mutual love and their new life together as husband and wife. Age may affect the design of the ceremony and the gifts the couple receive, but family and friends should feel free to contribute to the joy of the occasion.
A wedding shower provides the bride and groom with items they need to start their new life together. For a young couple just starting out, gifts usually include a collection of household goods -- from linens to kitchenware to electronics -- that they haven't yet accumulated or been able to afford on their own. While an older couple may have much of what they need, they might want to register for something they're missing or that has worn out. Or they might prefer to have well-wishers donate to charity.
As with any wedding, the venue -- church, courthouse, outdoors -- is up to the couple. Most older brides forgo an elaborate gown in favour of a less formal outfit, but again this is for the couple to decide, as is the bridal party and guest list. Legally, only an authorised signature and the signatures of witnesses are all that is required. Children or grandchildren can escort the bride and/or the groom as a change of pace if parents are absent.
In lieu of presents, the couple may want to request that guests instead donate to a charitable cause. Since weddings are such a family affair, an older couple may want to include those family members who have passed on by having a photo album, scrapbook, picture board or other memorial at the reception. This should not overshadow the celebration, however. Visiting with guests individually rather than using a receiving line is a pleasant way to acknowledge their attendance.
Many resorts, all-inclusive and otherwise, have packages available for newlyweds. The fact that the newlyweds in question are an older couple should not deter them from taking advantage of discounts, but the honeymoon should be one they can also enjoy. If potentially mingling with younger couples isn't appealing, consider a trip one or both has always wanted to make, a cruise or, if money is a concern, even a local getaway that involves mutual interests is appropriate.