Signs of an Overprotective Boyfriend

Updated March 23, 2017

An overprotective boyfriend is a serious problem. If your boyfriend is overprotective, you will likely not be happy in your relationship, no matter how nice or romantic he is. This is because he will stifle you with his insecurity. A relationship should be a highly positive, important part of your life, but it doesn't need to be your entire life. So, if you fear your boyfriend may be overprotective, you should keep an eye out for a few key signs.

Commitment Pressure

An overprotective boyfriend's behaviour comes from his insecurity. If you've been dating a man for a little while and he quickly starts to move the relationship forward, telling you he loves you, trying to get you to move in and insisting on seeing you all the time, then he is probably going to be overprotective. Moving a relationship forward quickly shows that he wants to "lock you in," as he is too insecure to have faith in his ability to keep you interested over time. Insecurity breeds overprotective behaviour.

His Choice

An overprotective boyfriend will make everything about him. Whenever you do an activity, it will be an activity that he chose. This is a sign of controlling behaviour, which is another component of overprotective behaviour. Your boyfriend will choose all the activities because he is either too selfish to think about what you want to do or obsessed with being in charge all the time. Either way, it can quickly lead to overprotective actions.


An overprotective boyfriend wants to be the only person in your life. Not only will he be jealous of other guys, he will also be jealous of your family, friends and acquaintances. He will be afraid of the influence they have on your life and will not want you to be involved with them. So, an overprotective boyfriend will become upset when you do things without him and constantly come up with activities that don't involve your friends.


Some men are sensitive, but overprotective men are extremely sensitive. He'll respond negatively to every slight, whether it's real or imagined. What's more, he'll respond disproportionately. If you tease him a little bit, he will get extremely upset. If you make plans that don't involve him, he'll also get extremely upset. Basically, an overprotective man is too insecure to keep his emotions stable, and a hypersensitivity is a good warning sign of things to come.

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About the Author

Sam Grover began writing in 2005, also having worked as a behavior therapist and teacher. His work has appeared in New Zealand publications "Critic" and "Logic," where he covered political and educational issues. Grover graduated from the University of Otago with a Bachelor of Arts in history.