Signs of a non-committal man

Updated March 23, 2017

A non-committal man is one who doesn't want to settle down and be in a relationship, but would prefer to just casually date and be with you from time to time. There's nothing wrong with dating a man like this, as long as you don't expect commitment from him. You should, however, be aware of what kind of man you are dating by looking for signs of non-commitment.

Relationship History

Men who are non-committal do not usually have a history of particularly long-term relationships. Rather, their relationships will have been months or weeks long, if they had any at all. If a man has this particular relationship history, it would behove you to ask why. Short relationships indicate a tendency to bail or sabotage when he starts to commit.

Ideal Partner

Sometimes men who shy away from commitment have a very specific, ideal partner in mind. They do this because it allows them to find fault with the women they date; it is easy for a woman to meet three different criteria, but it is difficult for her to meet 20. So, if you ask a man who his ideal partner is and you receive more than a few bullet points in reply, you should be aware that he may be non-committal.

Future Plans

A non-committal man will clearly state that he is not interested in marriage, having children or other trappings of long-term commitment. If he says he is not interested in these things, you should take him at his word. You're not going to change him over time, and if he says he's not interested in what comes with commitment, then he's probably not interested in commitment itself.

Unavailable Women

Choosing unavailable women is another sign of a non-committal man. He may, for example, secretly date women who are already in relationships, or he may exclusively date women who are only in town for a short amount of time. Either way, if a man has a tendency to choose women who are not available to him, he is probably doing so to avoid commitment.

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About the Author

Sam Grover began writing in 2005, also having worked as a behavior therapist and teacher. His work has appeared in New Zealand publications "Critic" and "Logic," where he covered political and educational issues. Grover graduated from the University of Otago with a Bachelor of Arts in history.