Emotional Attraction Triggers

Updated April 17, 2017

Movies make falling in love seem easy, but there is much more going on behind the scenes. While hormones and pheromones may stimulate biological attraction, emotional attraction is what keeps a couple together and interested in each other. A person can be physically or intellectually attracted to someone, but that does not necessarily mean he will fall in love with the person.


Good emotional attraction starts with making the other person feel good about herself. Compliments can trigger someone's positive emotional attraction for you because you are enhancing her self-esteem. When you couple that with flirting, it shows the other person how much you like and respect her. Don't just compliment the other person's looks. Compliment her intelligence or something unique about her that stands out to you. Chances are you will get a compliment in return.


Eye contact and gazing can also be emotional triggers. While you don't want to outright stare at someone, looking at him for two or three seconds intensely and then looking away is a sign that you are interested in knowing more about him. If he gazes back at you and your eyes meet, it can be an intimate shared experience. Gazing with moist eyes or dilated pupils shows someone is emotionally attracted to you, according to BBW Magazine.

Body Language

How you hold your body generates positive and negative emotions. People who stand up straight with open arms are more likely to get approached and will attract more positive emotions than an introvert who slouches, looks down and crosses his arms on his chest. To trigger emotional attraction, your body should be facing that person. If he touches you repeatedly or his hand lingers on your shoulder, it is also an emotional trigger that says he likes you, according to BBW Magazine.

Positive Outlook

Your personality will usually shine through your body language, which is why it is important to have a positive attitude. Negative attitudes are likely to demonstrate to a person that you may not be there for her in a time of need and that she should not depend on you. If you look at difficult situations with a positive frame of mind, people are more likely to respect you and see you as a strong individual.

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Maria Woehr is a journalist with over 10 years of professional writing experience. She started editing in 2006 and has been published in "The Westfield Leader Times," "Insurance & Technology Magazine," "InformationWeek," "Positive Thinking Magazine," "Go Magazine," "The Deal," "The Financial Times" and many other outlets. She is a graduate of Boston University and has a master's degree from Drew University.