You've been dating this wonderful woman and it feels like it's time to take the relationship to the next level. Your heart is racing at the very idea of asking her to be your wife, you want everything to be perfect, but you don't exactly know what to do. While it's true that men aren't expected to be "proposal experts," there are lovers who propose and lovers who give spectacular proposals.
The Engagement Ring
An easy proposal mistake is to propose to your girlfriend without an engagement ring. Even in an ideal venue, on a beautiful day, asking her to marry you without a ring could kill the "romantic awe" that most women hope for. Ever since Roman Emperor Maximilian I gave Mary of Burgundy a diamond ring as a gift, it's been the tradition to have one present.
It's not uncommon for men to take their girlfriends ring shopping months before he plans to propose, but when you want it to be a total surprise you're going to have to pick it out all on your own. By choosing the ring that you imagine to be perfect on her finger, you're bound to pick the right one.
There's always a chance that she might say, "no." To avoid that kind of heartbreak and embarrassment, make sure that you ask her when the time is right. A woman who is attending school, dealing with family issues or working on building her career, just might be too busy to agree to a marriage commitment.
Chances are, your girlfriend really loves you and wants to marry you as much as you want to marry her; proposing to her at the appropriate life moment gives her the chance to enjoy an experience that she's been waiting for.
Simply U Proposals, a professional online proposal resource guide, states, "80 per cent of women said they were disappointed in how they were proposed to (due to lack of creativity and thoughtfulness)." Make sure you choose a location of purpose. For example, you may want to take her somewhere that she's always talked about visiting or to her favourite venue; maybe there's a family event that she cherishes each year, or a nice cottage where's she wanted to vacation.
What to Say
When you really love someone, it's hard to say everything you feel all at once. When trying to decide what you want to say, instead of trying to memorise or create a poem, start writing down how you feel during the week that you plan to propose. Jot down your fears, expectations, reasons why you have to ask and reasons why she has to say yes. By the time you're ready to propose, you'll have a page or two full of things to say that come right from your heart.
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