The Warning Signs of Players in Internet Dating

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The Warning Signs of Players in Internet Dating
Players care only about sex, not about personality. (Jupiterimages/Creatas/Getty Images)

Internet dating can be a boon to those seeking a long-term relationship, but not everyone is of that mindset. Some look to this medium to lure unsuspecting women and men into nothing more than sexual encounters, while espousing false desires to find true love. These individuals are known as "players." They see romance as a game, whose only objective is to win by scoring, or "sleeping," with as many women or men as possible. Learn the warnings of these love killers before you become one of their victims.

Instant Familiarity

Instant familiarity can be the sign of an Internet player. Calling you "sweetheart" or other terms of endearment when you have only just met is coming on too strong. It may signal that this person wants to get close to you in other ways -- physically, not emotionally. Being too bold in their requests, such as asking you to send a picture of yourself naked, is a sure signal that these profilers have only one thing on their minds -- and it isn't love.

Lack of a Real Profile

If you see a profile without any substantial information on it, chances are the writer is a player. Men or women who are interested in long-term relationships take time to craft a profile that is compelling, engaging and substantial. Players list hobbies and interests that are vague and undefined. They don't take the time to describe their true personalities because personality doesn't interest them. Their focus is on outward appearance -- their own as well as that of others.

Pushes for Meetups

If a profiler pushes for meetups quickly, especially private ones, you can almost be assured of her "player" status.She wants to get you alone as quickly as possible in order to score again. A player won't be interested in getting to know you slowly, whether it's by e-mail, instant messages or phone conversations. Quick and dirty is the name of the game, so if you feel rushed or pushed into intimacy too fast, tell this player she's not winning any points with you.

Disappears Suddenly

The disappearing act is a favourite move that players use. If a profiler promises to call, e-mail or instant message you after a date and never does, you are probably dealing with a player. Despite the fact that you may have exchanged warm and flirtatious words, players usually aren't interested in seeing a man or woman more than once. They want to be out there in the online world again, chasing and catching beautiful women with no intent of giving love to any of them.

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